Wednesday, March 5, 2014

Spread The Word To End The Word



So there is a word that I absolutely despise! Today associated with ending the use of this word!

You might have heard.
"Spread the word to end the word"

 SO I wanted to tell you all why I hate it and WHY
 <<<I>>> 
think it should be taken out of everyone's vocabulary.

My little brother used to ride big yellow bus to School. Tucker LOVED  the bus rides. He had a van aide that would help the him and the other  students while they road to school. I remember a story that my mom told me and even now, over six years later, I still remember it.

The van aide was signing to a student that is deaf. She accidentally brushed her chest in a way that is commonly used in a negative way for describing someone with a disability. (The r word) Well, the student instantly started to cry! She did not mean it that way at all and was probably just not being overly aware with her hand placement. The van aide felt so terrible that she had caused this boy pain...
THEY DO KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON 

Just because they have a disability does not mean that they don't understand what you are saying.

They are brilliant... No matter what a doctor says. I believe that they learn things through love and kindness.

Growing up I was not allowed to say the R word because it was a sensitive subject in our home.
<<<not a big shocker there>>>
i mean come ON look at his face. he is so stinking cute 


Still to this day tucker is the cutest little boy I ever have met. He would laugh at our jokes, tighten up all his muscles clench his jaw and glare at us when we would fight, I would sing him so sleep and whisper all my secrets to him... He knew what we were saying and doing.

I think about my brother all the time and I cannot imagine saying that word in front of him because I KNOW it would hurt him.

This video might help you understand...



Having a special need is something that these people CANNOT CONTROL.

And everyday I think about people who have a special need and I KNOW without a doubt that they are some of gods most precious people.

People who have a special need are amazing. They go through trials that I try to imagine but cannot ever grasp. And even through these trials, they have a big smile on their faces!



When we use what used to be a medical term, as a harsh, cruel insult. We are causing these wonderful people pain. These people don't look at their disability as a bad thing! But when we say the R word we are making them feel that they aren't good enough!

It DOES matter what words we use. Just because people think it is socially acceptable... It isn't. If you are thinking that I am exaggerating or just being emotional... Go meet someone who has a special need. Once you genuinely care and love them... Then you too will want to do everything to make them feel loved and happy because you know that is what they want to do for you.

Some of my greatest friends have a special need. Some of them can't tell me with their words that they love me... But I know they do. My heart aches when I hear of the pain that my sweet friends have. I just want to take all of it away and make it okay with a hug... But a hug won't stop this problem.

And because I love them more than words can possibly express, it would be horribly rude if I didn't speak up for them.

They need a voice.
 
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Monday, March 3, 2014

Trying Something New



Okay so I know I don't do this a lot... actually I do this next to NEVER but I have been feeling a little down about just everything. I don't know if it is due to the winter blues or just cause I am sick of school BUT I have been a bit of a "Negative Nancy"! so if I have said something rude or not so tactful to you, well I'm really sorry. But now the thing I don't do a lot is share my straight up feelings so here they are. If you don't like them, then i guess you have to choice to not read this ...
It wasn't until this last week when I was reading a blog that I really got a kick in the pants and it told me to be happy. (not the fake happy that comes on your face when someone walks up to you and asks you how you are but the real.. DANCE LIKE A CRAZY PERSON HAPPY... the way that i idealize myself to be)So this blogger was writing about a new movie and how there was "gay propaganda" in it. I have seen the movie and i honestly did not feel that there was any bit of propaganda at all! I just felt so truly bad for the poor author that wrote the blog because she was digging for something negative!
I don't want to be a "Negative Nancy" anymore! after I read the post I had this thought that was that there are so many people trying to push their thoughts and opinions and they don't realize that they aren't even trying to be happy! I want to put some happy thoughts on the internet. So whether or not this gets read at all, it will just make me feel happy that I made the internet a little bit happier.
Things that make me happy:

  •   I will be on SPRING BREAK in a week! and I get to spend it with some pretty awesome people who I love dearly
  •   I just got a cool new shirt that has tulip style sleeves... and now I really want to sew that little black dress pattern that i made up way back in November (im getting excited)
  •    Yesterday Kevin helped me clean the house... and now everywhere i look my tiny house i can't help but SMILE because it is CLEAN (which is a really big deal for me)
  •   I am cooking THE BEST TOMATO SOUP EVER for dinner... and i think that it is one of the greatest soups on the entire planet so I'm a bit excited.
  •    I got to spend 2 hours with my sister AKA one of my best friends
  •   I finally  changed my last name to Pickett on my drivers license and the picture is still bad despite my efforts in getting ready... i just have to laugh because I tried so dang hard to not look like a man... and i do! it kills me
  • I got an email from one of my friends on a mission... and i sent an email to one of my other friends on a mission
  •   My little sister will actually talk to me on the phone for longer than a minute.... she is so fun to talk to.
  •   also i am still just so HAPPY about my clean house
  •     I have some of the greatest parents that anyone could ask for... also fabulous in-laws, they really are great too.
  •       my husband does goofy stuff with me... like he waxes his nose hair and i laugh/cry hysterically

Well those are a few that are just the most pressing... who knows i might right like this another time! 
I hope you are having a wonderful day. And don't forget someone loves you. Okay I know it's cheesy and it might be because i am trying to be happy that i am acting like a darned cheese ball but SERIOUSLY someone loves you.